Oscar and I met in 2004 through a
mutual friend who was just dying to set us up! I was just out terrible
relationship and had no desire to be fixed up with anyone. Even through my
resistance, Oscar persisted and I am so glad he did. We quickly became great
friends and started dating a few months later.
The first time I met Oscar’s
parents, we had only been dating for about a month. It was his birthday and
they were visiting for the day. We went out to lunch and then met back at his
house for cake and presents. I excused myself to take the dog out for a quick
potty break and by the time I returned, his parents had already told him, “We
don’t know what you are planning for the future, but we want to throw the party
at our house”.
Having come from different family
upbringings, but very similar relationship nightmares, we realized that we were
really perfect for each other and just knew that someday we would get married.
Our differences as individuals bring balance to our relationship and our scars
from the past construct our strong value for one another. We got married 2
years later on September 2, 2006. Our first life lesson learned as a couple-
marry your best friend.
We didn’t have a lot to work with
but managed to pull off a wedding with 250 guests on a $5,000 budget. (We both
thank my frugal nature and creativity for that one… with a little help from
Xanax at times!) We were married in the same hall where my sister-in-law had
her quincenera which happens to be directly across the street from where my
mother-in-law went to elementary and grade school. We learned life lesson
number two from our wedding- not everything will go as planned and that is ok.
We focused on the end result in that we were bound together in matrimony and
had the rest of our lives to conquer challenges, together!
As we left the bay area headed
out to enjoy our honeymoon, we had to stop for a map (this is
pre-affordable-GPS mind you). The gas station owner asked me, “Where are you
headed?” to which I replied, “I am on my way to my honeymoon with the man I
love. We are driving up Hwy 1 to Fort Bragg”. The owner said to me, “Do you
have any idea how long that is going to take?!” I calmly replied, “We are in no
hurry, we have the rest of our lives together”. As we drove up Hwy 1 for the next
6 hours, being careful to watch out for missing pieces of the highway from washouts
and making the occasional stop for the herd of cattle in the middle of the
road, we learned life lesson number three- enjoy the time you have together
now.
Our honeymoon was less than
traditional as we spent a week in a California coastal fishing town after it “closed”
for the tourism season. It was really great being practically the only out-of-towners
around. The restaurants weren’t busy, the chartered fishing boat and horseback
trail ride had only 2 other people, and we were able to unwind and kickback. We
had free reign of the Mendocino Botanical Gardens and just about any beach we
went to. Life lesson number four- relax.
We started trying to conceive from
the first night we were married as having a family was our highest priority
from the get-go. After about 2 years of trying to conceive naturally, we sought
help. I tried a number of diets, treatments, and medicinal regimes. It was
amazing how quickly the process became more of a job than anything. I was
tracking my temperature, regulating pills multiple times a day, limiting what
foods I ate, visiting the acupuncturist weekly and my OB-GYN every month. I finally
broke down in January 2009 when I just couldn’t take anymore. I wanted our life
back and am so thankful that my husband wanted it back just as much as I did!
For those of you who are trying to get pregnant and are experiencing
difficulties from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, my OB-GYN prescribed Metformin
and Clomid. I have a wonderful OB-GYN and went to a fantastic Acupuncturist!
Go to the “Our Referrals” tab to find out more!
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